“You’ve been carrying the weight of faith that no longer feels safe. You’re not looking to be ‘fixed,’ you’re simply ready for a place to heal, and the freedom to be yourself.”
You Left the Church, But the Wounds Stayed: Navigating the Confusion Between Belief and Healing
Maybe you’ve asked yourself:
- What if I’m ruining my kids by not raising them in church?
- Am I being selfish, or even rebellious?
- What if God is disappointed in me, and I don’t even know it?
These aren’t small questions. In fact, they shape your identity, parenting, sense of belonging, and relationship with God.
After stepping away from church, you may feel a quiet ache, something between loss and confusion.
Although you’ve tried to move forward, the past still lingers.
Leaders and community members you once trusted may now feel like strangers. Sometimes they become reminders of betrayal.
You might even face shunning or heartbreaking distance from people you love.
That kind of rupture cuts deeply and creates wounds that take time to heal.
Especially when people who once said, “We love you,” now refuse to speak to you.
Without the structure you once followed, the future can feel wide open and overwhelming.
You may feel anxious about isolation, finances, or fears of eternal punishment.
These aren’t just thoughts.
They are echoes of beliefs that still live in your body.
You may feel caught in a painful tug-of-war.
Your mind knows certain messages aren’t true anymore, but your body still reacts like they are.
And yet… there’s something else rising too
A breath of relief. A small flicker of strength returns.
The quiet freedom of thinking for yourself, of choosing what matters to you.
Maybe even the start of self-acceptance.
After years of hearing you were broken, you’re starting to ask yourself:
What if I was never the problem?
Grief and relief, fear and freedom, they aren’t contradictions. Instead, they’re signs of someone bravely healing. Therapy holds all of it, not to fix you, but to help you reconnect with the truth you’ve always carried.
After experiencing spiritual abuse myself, I know how disorienting, painful, and lonely this healing journey can be. And after leaving my own high-control group, I know it takes real courage just to show up. Because of this, I want you to know that you are not alone in feeling this way.
Shame, Fear, and the Body’s Response
Maybe you’re struggling with sexual shame.
If you were taught to fear your own body, desire might feel unsafe or confusing.
Even intimacy can feel just out of reach.
Or maybe you notice the constant push toward perfection, never feeling “good enough,” always bracing for judgment or failure.
For many, betrayal by spiritual leaders isn’t just disappointing; it becomes traumatic.
Spiritual abuse leaves deep trust wounds that make closeness and safety feel nearly impossible.
Therapy holds all of it, not to fix you, but to help you reconnect with the truth you’ve always carried.
Because when you feel seen and understood, healing starts to unfold more naturally. As that connection grows, your body and mind work together to support your healing.
The Sacred Work of Becoming Whole: This Is What Freedom Feels Like
“Imagine feeling at ease in your own skin, no longer second-guessing every thought, instinct, or desire.” You’re no longer living under a microscope of judgment.
You can speak openly about your faith, your doubts, and your values, and still feel loved.
As this begins to settle in, you begin to feel safe in your body again.
Not as something to control or fear, but as something wise you can learn to trust.
You choose your own spiritual path, whether that includes worship, wonder, or something in between.
And instead of bracing for criticism, there’s no panic about getting it “wrong.”
You start finding your people, friends who truly understand.
Conversations feel honest and deep instead of shame-filled or awkward.
Your relationships become steady, not performative.
Slowly, you stop walking on eggshells, and you begin showing up fully, freely, finally.
Because who you are is enough. Not because you believe the “right” things, but because you earned it. But simply because you exist just as you are.
When Hope Rises, Honest Longing Shows Up Too
You may be saying to yourself:
“I’m tired of trying to be someone I’m not just to be accepted.
I want to live with integrity, not in fear.
I need to trust my own voice again, not the one shaped by leaders who claimed to know better.
It’s important for me to ask hard questions without carrying shame, while feeling at home in my body. To explore what I believe without someone telling me what’s ‘right.’
I want peace, not pressure.
Connection, not control.
I’m ready to build something real: relationships, community, maybe even a little faith, that actually feels like mine. I don’t want to keep carrying fear disguised as holiness. I want to be free, honest, and fully myself.”
If this resonates, even a little, you don’t have to walk through this alone.
In fact, this is where our work together begins. And when you feel ready to take that next step, I’m here to walk with you.
You’re Allowed to Heal in Your Own Way: What Therapy With Me Is Like
In our work together, there’s no performance and no pressure to believe the “right” things. You won’t need to fear being judged, silenced, or shamed.
You will have a quiet space where you get to tell the truth at your own pace.
I’m not here to bring you back to faith, nor to pull you away from it either.
Together, we’ll sort through what’s truly yours and let go of what was never meant to be carried.
I’ve lived through spiritual abuse myself, and I bring that understanding into the space we create together.
I use Brainspotting, a trauma-informed approach that helps you access and release emotional pain stored deep in the body.
Also, I use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to help you notice and gently shift the thought patterns that keep you stuck in shame or fear.
Because of that, whether you’re grieving, angry, confused, or simply exhausted, therapy becomes a place where you can feel seen and supported. Here, you don’t have to explain why it still hurts.
Together, we will create space for your doubts, desires, anger, relief, and healing.
You don’t need the perfect words, and you don’t need a clear plan.
Instead, bring a little curiosity and a bit of courage.
There’s no pressure and no expectation.
Just a space to explore whether this feels like the right fit for you.
When you’re feeling the pull to begin or to ask questions, I invite you to reach out for a free 15-minute consultation.
When that moment comes, I’d be honored to connect.
It’s Not Easy to Ask for Help: Here’s Why
For many people, even reaching out for therapy feels risky. You’ve spent years in environments where questions were met with silence, judgment, or shame. So the idea of sitting across from a therapist can feel complicated.
You might wonder:
- Will they try to talk me into going back to church?
- What if they don’t get it?
You may fear that someone will judge or dismiss you. While worrying, someone will say, “It wasn’t that bad,” or “Other people had it worse.”
You’ve probably told yourself:
- “I should be over this by now.”
- “I’m afraid someone will try to talk me out of what I still believe.”
- “It wasn’t that bad because I can handle it on my own.”
And maybe you’re thinking:
“I’m too tired to even start.”
Between parenting, relationships, work, and just trying to function, you’re already stretched thin.
You’ve spent so long trying to be “good enough” as a parent, partner, believer, or human.
During all of this, you’ve been bracing for judgment or rejection. And underneath every attempt to keep going is a deeper fear:
That therapy will turn into another place where you have to explain, defend, or perform. Yet despite that fear, a part of you still hopes for a space where you can finally breathe. And as that awareness settles in, you can choose support that feels safe and steady.
What Makes This Space Different
I’ve lived through spiritual abuse, and I bring that lived understanding into the space we create together. There’s no agenda here, no push back toward faith, and no pull away from it.
What we do focus on is helping you sort out what’s genuinely yours instead of what you absorbed out of fear.
From there, we gently explore what no longer serves you and what your spirit is ready to let go of. In our space, there is no fear of being judged, corrected, or shamed for your thoughts.
Just a grounded, compassionate space where:
- First, your pain makes sense.
- Next, I hold your story with care. There, I hold your story with care.
- And finally, healing becomes something you get to claim as your own.
And because of this, you will begin to move at your own pace without feeling pushed, corrected, or rushed.
You have permission to want healing and to take up space. You’re allowed to want healing and to take up space, and when you’re ready, I’ll be right here.
If something in you is stirring, I invite you to reach out for a 15-minute consultation.